Mending a Strained Helper-Employer Relationship

Relationships experience ups and downs, and that’s quite normal. Constant nurturing is crucial though; otherwise, they might just break down (and sometimes beyond repair). The helper-employer relationship is no exception. It can be even more difficult to navigate given the intimate nature that characterizes it – working in a private household can be intricate as the lines can sometimes get blurry. When left unattended, relationships can cause tensions, frustration,…

Should I Assign my Helper’s Tasks?

Once the hiring phase is over, you will come to realize that putting on the ‘employer hat’ is an absolute must. The helper-employer relationship requires constant work as managing a helper not only involves managing the relationship but also your domestic helper’s work – and the live-in factor can sometimes complicate things. Different types of employers manage their helpers’ work in a different way. Each and every one of us has one’s very own style. While…

Should I install CCTV to monitor my helper?

Being worried about our loved ones when we are not around is natural. We all want – even feel the need – to make sure that they are safe and sound. It is comprehensible that increasingly more employers in Singapore are choosing to install cameras to monitor how their loved ones are being treated by the helper they have hired to care for them when they are not at home.

Closed-circuit television (CCTV), what for?

The main reasons invoked by employers who have opted for CCTV (and those…

Should my Helper Dine with Us?

Having a domestic helper who lives in with your family 24/7 can sometimes be tricky as the traditional employer-employee relationship gets blurred. You – and certainly your helper – might just end up feeling confused and not knowing where you stand about certain things. That’s perfectly understandable given the peculiar nature of the relationship – the live-in factor doesn’t make it any easier. It is okay to wonder where to draw the line on some things – such as …

Overcoming language barriers

Singapore has around 200,000 helpers and finding the right fit can sometimes be difficult…but not impossible! It is important to build a healthy relationship with your helper right from the start to ensure things go as smoothly as you had pictured. However, this can sometimes be tough as communication – which can make or break a relationship – can be hindered by several factors including language. Language can be a huge barrier often leading to miscommunications and …

Everything you need to know about your helper’s family visiting

Your helper’s children in the Philippines are planning a visit into town to see their mother and you are wondering how things are going to unfold, logistically speaking. The following information will shed some light on the – sometimes quite tedious – process your helper must go through to have her family over.

What’s the process like for my helper?

Your helper will have to go through various steps and make sure that all the necessary paperwork has been processed – especially…

My domestic helper doesn’t take initiative, what should I do?

Managing a helper is challenging, especially when she doesn’t take any initiative, so here are some tips to make your helper more autonomous.

The honeymoon period with your helper has ended and even though she is a great person, she doesn’t take enough initiative. Welcome to the world of employers, fraught with challenges and obstacles. Supervising, motivating and guiding a domestic helper is a challenging task. If you are frustrated by her lack of autonomy, take action…

Help! Since I’ve hired a domestic helper my privacy is gone

Your home has not felt the same since your domestic helper has been working for you. What are the common causes and what can you do about them?

Maintaining privacy with a live-in helper is not easy. When your helper first started working for you, the issue of privacy may not have been so pronounced. But over time, you may start to feel less and less comfortable having her around all the time. This can even lead to you considering to not have a helper at all despite all the benefits she brings…

Is it allowed for your FDH to stay out on the weekend?

Your helper has requested to stay out on the weekend. She says that she is free to do as she pleases during her 24-hour rest period. Is your helper allowed to do this? And should you let her?

This question is more common than you think. Your helper is naturally entitled to her rest day of consecutively 24 hours, but her staying out is a different issue. Every employer will have their own preferences.

Some employers are very close to their helpers and worry about them as if they were family.…

What to do if your helper wants to go out at night

Your helper has asked if she can go out during the week with her friends. What should you do?

“My helper has started with us for a month, but now she is asking if she can go out during the week ‘after hours’. She said she used to do this with her old employer. I’m confused because I thought their days off are just Sundays. I don’t love this idea, but I understand she is entitled to spend her time ‘after hours’ as she pleases. Should we let the helper go out or not?”

This is a …